I had so many things I wanted to say on my blog yesterday, but got sidetracked and didn't get a chance to write anything. Do you know that feeling that lingers around you when you know you should have done something, but didn't wanted to get up and start writing. Instead, I watched Part 2 of Love & Hip Hop. Why? Why? Why?
On this second part, Monique, who was hosting the show and trying to maintain some order, started right off letting them know they were all expected to stay in their seat, there would be no fighting.
Amina is pregnant and let Peter Gunz know by taking the pregnancy test stick from her bra and giving it to him. She recognizes that she is no different from Tara. He is cheating on her with other women besides Tara. Peter walked off the stage and at first refused to return. Later he said he wanted to talk to Tara, not Amina. He would only come back if Amina was not on the stage. She is escorted off, kicking and yelling. Peter returns wearing dark shades and obviously shaken. He apologizes to Tara for everything. Tara was his ride and die chick for 13 years. She is the mother of his children. Without even warning her, he came home one day and told her he had married Amina, however he continued staying with Tara, disrespecting both women and didn't even wear his wedding ring. He acknowledged he is too old for this behavior. Other things went on, but Peter Gunz stayed on my mind. I wondered what happened to him. A lot of "stuff" we experience in life, the way we are molded, trained, developed can be traced right on back to our mom and pop. I have been in therapy before. (need to still be in therapy), but one of the first things asked is, tell me about your childhood.
No one wakes up one day and says I will be a liar, use women, be a cheat, unreliable, belligerent, conniving, trifling...Prior to watching this show I also watched Fatal Attractions where a minister - a so-called man of God had married a woman that had a child by a previous relationship, sixteen year old Shantell. The family moved to Mobile, Alabama and had six children together. While delivering her 8th child she died in childbirth. The church family is heartbroken. But the pastor seems to be doing well raising the children with the help of Shantell -until the day she is stopped by a concerned neighbor as she walks down the street barefoot in the cold. As the story unfolds we learn that the pastor had been sexually assaulting Shantell since she was 11. Her mother suspected, and finally found out when she was 16 and caught the pastor in the church bathroom fondling Shantell. At home she threatens the pastor by saying she was calling he police and he strangles her. He makes Shantell help me get the body to the car and the two of them dig the grave behind a church in a nearby city. Then a few days later he has a change of heart and goes and digs the body up, wraps it in thick plastic puts it in a freezer, also with the help of Shantell. The freezer is stored in the storage room of their home. Now she is 19 and pregnant by her stepfather, and he is also messing around with her 14 year old sister- who is his birth daughter. Just too much craziness before bedtime!
Once all of this story is unfolded the pastor is charged with murder, child abuse, sexual child abuse and a host of other things. The 14 year old didn't have to testify, but Shantell took the stand. I wondered what kind of woman will she grow up to be. How will she have a s successful relationship with a man? What about the other children, especially the one that he had started molesting. This is one of the reasons we end up with adult men and women that are lost, don't know how to treat people, are sad, angry, lost, and need help. I feel badly for Peter Gunz, but I have confidence that he will change if he seeks help.
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